I need advice
Dear Counselling,
I was wondering if I should contact you, my brother was diagnosed with cancer today. We haven't seen all the doctors yet, but it’s not very good news. Since I started uni, I lost a very good friend to pancreatic cancer. Everything seems to be going haywire. I am really enjoying my course but I’m not sure if I need to tell my teachers. I am trying to keep up with everything. What do you suggest? - Anonymous
It seems like you have gone through some very difficult times lately. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your good friend, and also about your brother’s news. It is normal for things to seem a bit haywire when you experience loss and grief, and it seems like this could be affecting your studies. So it is good that you have contacted us because we can look at your situation together and work out the best way forward.
It is great that you are enjoying your course – lots of students tell us that uni can be a welcome distraction when they’re grieving. If you feel like your work is being affected, it could be a good idea to let your unit coordinators know, just so they’re aware of what’s happening. You can also apply for Special Consideration. You will need to provide some supporting documentation, so have a look at Special Consideration webpage the
Grief can leave you feeling very lonely and confused, so please feel free to make a time to see a counsellor if you would like some support. We can also help by explaining the process and assisting you in applying for Special Consideration.
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