Missing classes

Dear Counselling,

After my first session I am considered an at risk student as I have failed classes because of absence.  This session is heading that way too. For the last few months I have been feeling very depressed and have found it hard to study and make it to class.  I lost a loved one to cancer three years ago and although 3 years sounds like a long time, I still have a lot of trouble dealing with the loss.  I’ve applied to transfer into a new course as a fresh start, but in saying that I do not want to just throw away the rest of this session. This might be a stupid question, but am I too far gone to be helped? - Anonymous

That’s definitely not a stupid question to ask. It’s never too late to make a difference to your studies and it’s really great that you’re not giving up.

I’m very sorry to hear about your loss.  It’s normal for that experience to have a huge impact on you. Everyone copes with loss differently, so don’t feel that it’s unusual to still be feeling the effects now. Grief is often more intense around important dates, especially the anniversary of the loss.

Grief can be confusing and complicated but talking to people (like a trusted friend or counsellor) can help to reduce those feelings. A counsellor can also talk to you about applying for withdrawal without academic penalty (W-grade) for the units you failed last session. You can get more information about W-grades online.

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